Book Club Questions for Do Hard Things

1.The book opens with a direct challenge: "Most people don't expect you to understand... And even if you do something about it, they don't expect it to last." How did those words land on you when you first read them? Did they feel motivating, accusatory, or something else entirely?

2.Alex and Brett coined the term "Rebelution" — a combination of "rebellion" and "revolution." In your own words, what are they rebelling against, and what are they revolting toward?

3.The twins wrote this book as teenagers themselves. Does that fact change how you receive their message? Why or why not?

1.Alex and Brett open with real stories of teenagers who have done remarkable things — from lobbying for legislation to launching non-profits and humanitarian projects. Which story struck you most, and what made it feel significant rather than just impressive?

2.The authors are careful to say that the Rebelution is not about doing hard things to prove yourself to others. How do they distinguish between "doing hard things for God's glory" and simply being an overachiever? Do you find that distinction convincing?

3.The chapter challenges the idea that teenagers are naturally and inevitably irresponsible. What cultural forces do Alex and Brett identify as contributing to that assumption?

1.Alex and Brett argue that "adolescence" as we know it — a prolonged period of irresponsibility between childhood and adulthood — is a modern invention, roughly a hundred years old. Did this claim surprise you? What had you previously assumed about the teen years?

2.The authors trace the rise of the adolescence myth through cultural and historical shifts, including changes in child labor laws, the expansion of public schooling, and the rise of a "teen consumer" market. Which of these factors do you find most convincing in explaining why low expectations for teens became normal?

3.Alex and Brett point out that throughout most of human history, the period we call "the teen years" was the time when young people took on adult responsibilities — apprenticeships, military service, marriage, leadership. How does this historical reality challenge the way our culture talks about teens today?

1.Alex and Brett describe the first category of hard things as those that are "outside your comfort zone" — not necessarily huge, dramatic acts, but everyday choices to push past what is easy and familiar. What does your personal comfort zone look like? Name two or three things you consistently avoid because they're uncomfortable.

2.The authors use the phrase "counterfeit comfort" to describe the false sense of safety we get from staying small. What makes comfort counterfeit — that is, what does it promise that it ultimately cannot deliver?

3.Hebrews 12:11 says that discipline "seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness." How does this verse reframe the difficulty of hard things — not as a sign that something is wrong, but as evidence that something good is happening?

1.Alex and Brett describe a second category of hard things: those that are "beyond your current abilities" — tasks that require you to grow into them rather than simply deciding to do them. How is this different from the first category (things outside your comfort zone)?

2.The authors share stories of young people who attempted things that seemed wildly beyond them — and succeeded, often imperfectly, but meaningfully. What common thread runs through those stories in terms of what made the attempt worthwhile even before the outcome?

3.Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 12:9, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." How does this promise change the way you think about attempting something you are not yet capable of?

1.Alex and Brett identify a third category of hard things: those that are "not fun, flashy, or popular" — the behind-the-scenes, ingrate work that almost never gets applause. Why is this category particularly hard for our generation to embrace?

2.The authors use the phrase "small things done faithfully" as a defining mark of the Rebelution. How does this sit with you? Is there a part of you that wants the Rebelution to be bigger and more dramatic than this?

3.Colossians 3:23 commands us to work "heartily, as for the Lord and not for men." How does this verse reframe unglamorous work — not as wasted effort but as genuine worship?

1.Alex and Brett describe a fourth category of hard things: those that are "opposed by others" — choices that will earn you ridicule, pushback, or social cost. How is opposition different from mere difficulty? Why does opposition feel uniquely threatening?

2.Paul writes in 2 Timothy 3:12, "All who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted." Does this feel like an exaggeration to you, or does your experience confirm it? Share an example if you can.

3.The authors acknowledge that the fear of social rejection is one of the most powerful forces keeping young people from doing hard things. On a scale of 1-10, how much does the fear of what others think influence your choices? What specific relationships or social groups carry the most weight for you?

1.Alex and Brett describe the fifth category of hard things as those that "require working with others" — collaboration, accountability, and the kind of teamwork that forces you out of independence and into genuine community. Why might this qualify as a "hard thing" in a culture that prizes individual achievement?

2.The authors are honest about the challenges of working with others — conflict, compromise, the slowness of consensus, the frustration of depending on people who let you down. Have you experienced any of these? What happened?

3.Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says "Two are better than one... For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow." What does this passage suggest about the design of hard things — that they were meant to be done in community, not alone?

1.The final chapter is essentially a call to action. After everything you have read, what has been the most repeated excuse you have made (internally or out loud) for not starting yet? Name it honestly.

2.Alex and Brett encourage readers to begin where they are, with what they have — not to wait for a bigger platform, a perfect plan, or an older age. What is the hardest part of that instruction for you personally?

3.Paul writes in Galatians 6:9, "Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up." The Rebelution is not a single dramatic act but a sustained pattern of life. What rhythms, habits, or structures could you put in place to sustain long-term faithfulness rather than a short burst of enthusiasm?

1.Looking back across the entire book, which chapter or concept hit you hardest? Why do you think that one landed with particular force?

2.Alex and Brett organized their challenge around five categories of hard things: outside your comfort zone, beyond your current abilities, unglamorous, opposed, and requiring others. Which of the five do you find most difficult? Which comes most naturally to you?

3.How has your understanding of the teen years — your own season of life right now — changed as a result of reading this book? Are you more hopeful, more convicted, more energized, or something else?