Book Club Questions for Kingdom Man

1.Evans opens by painting a picture of a world in crisis and traces much of it back to the absence of strong, godly men. Without assigning blame unfairly, where do you see the effects of male abdication in your own family history, neighborhood, or community?

2.God told Ezekiel He was looking for a man to 'stand in the gap' (Ezekiel 22:30), but found none. What does it mean to stand in the gap? What gaps exist in your life right now that are waiting for you to step into them?

3.Evans distinguishes between being male by biology and being a man by God's definition. How would you describe that distinction in your own words? How does culture's definition of manhood differ from the kingdom definition Evans begins to sketch?

1.Evans argues that God's original design in Genesis 1 — the mandate to have 'dominion' — is the starting point for understanding male identity and purpose. What does it mean that man was made in the 'image of God' and given dominion? What does that say about your dignity and your responsibility?

2.A kingdom man operates under God's authority before he operates over his domain. Evans is clear: authority flows downward from alignment. In what areas of your life are you trying to exercise authority or influence that you have not yet submitted to God's lordship?

3.Evans uses the illustration of an employee who takes orders from his supervisor because both answer to a larger authority. How does understanding yourself as God's 'employee' or 'representative' change the way you approach decisions at home, at work, and in your community?

1.Evans emphasizes that a kingdom man's outward leadership is only as strong as his inner life. Proverbs 4:23 says to 'guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.' What does guarding your heart look like in practical terms for a man today?

2.Evans talks about the danger of men who look strong externally — career success, social respect, religious activity — while their inner world is quietly falling apart. Are there ways your outer presentation has gotten ahead of your inner reality? What would it cost you to close that gap?

3.Integrity, Evans argues, is about being the same man in private as you are in public. Where is the greatest gap between your public self and your private self? What one person in your life knows the real you?

1.Evans argues that too many men are either stuck in the past (paralyzed by failure and regret) or defined by the past (relying on former glory instead of present faithfulness). Which tendency is more common for you — and how does it show up?

2.Paul says he 'forgets what is behind and strains toward what is ahead' (Philippians 3:13). Evans notes this doesn't mean pretending the past didn't happen — it means refusing to let it have the final word. What is one chapter of your story you need to stop letting define you?

3.Evans discusses the pain of men who grew up without fathers — or with fathers who were present physically but absent emotionally. How has your relationship with your father (for good or ill) shaped your view of yourself, of God, and of your own role as a man or leader?

1.Evans calls a man to be a 'servant-leader' in marriage — the one who sets the spiritual thermostat of the home. What does servant-leadership look like in marriage, and how is it different from domination on one side or passivity on the other?

2.Ephesians 5:25 calls husbands to love their wives 'as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.' Evans presses on the sacrificial nature of this love. In what specific ways is loving your wife (or future wife) costing you something? Where do you tend to protect yourself instead of giving yourself?

3.Evans draws on the Genesis 2 account, noting that the woman was taken from the man's side — not from under his foot or from over his head, but from beside him. What does that image communicate about how a kingdom man should regard and treat his wife?

1.Evans describes children as 'arrows' in Psalm 127 — they are meant to be aimed and released with purpose. What does it mean to 'aim' your children well? What does a child need from a father in order to be aimed toward their God-given destiny rather than just left to drift?

2.Deuteronomy 6 commands fathers to talk about God's word when sitting, walking, lying down, and getting up — in other words, in the rhythms of ordinary life. How are you (or how might you) weave faith into the everyday moments with your children, rather than compartmentalizing it to church?

3.Evans is honest about the damage done by fathers who are harsh, absent, or who give attention only when a child performs or achieves. What kind of atmosphere — emotionally, spiritually — does your home have? Do your children experience you as safe and approachable?

1.Evans roots work in the creation mandate — God placed Adam in the garden 'to work it and take care of it' (Genesis 2:15) before sin entered the picture. How does knowing that work is part of God's original design (not the result of the Fall) change the way you approach your daily work?

2.Colossians 3:23 says, 'Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord.' Evans calls men to what he describes as 'kingdom excellence' — doing their work with integrity and excellence as an act of worship. Does that describe your current posture toward your work? Where does it fall short?

3.Evans warns against two opposite failures: the workaholic who makes his career an idol, and the passive man who does not take his work seriously. Which is more your tendency? How does each represent a distortion of the kingdom calling to work?

1.Evans points to the alarming reality that many churches are predominantly female in active membership and leadership while men sit on the sidelines. Why do you think so many men are disengaged from the local church? What makes genuine church involvement feel unappealing or optional to men?

2.Hebrews 10:24–25 commands believers not to give up meeting together but to 'spur one another on.' Evans argues that a kingdom man treats church not as a place he goes but as a body he belongs to and is responsible for. What is the difference between attending church and belonging to a church?

3.1 Corinthians 12 uses the metaphor of a body to describe the church — every member has a function, and no function is dispensable. What is your specific role in the body of your local church? Are you actively exercising it, or are you sitting on the bench?

1.God told the exiles in Babylon to 'seek the peace and prosperity of the city' where He had sent them (Jeremiah 29:7). Evans uses this passage to argue that kingdom men are to be city-builders, not just family-protectors. How does this passage expand your sense of calling and responsibility?

2.Jesus called His followers the 'salt of the earth' and the 'light of the world' (Matthew 5:13–16) — both of which are substances that have an effect on everything around them. In what specific ways are you functioning as salt and light in your neighborhood or community right now?

3.Evans addresses the unique responsibility of Black men in America — and more broadly, all men from historically marginalized communities — to be kingdom men who rebuild rather than abandon their communities. How does the kingdom framework change the way a man sees urban or underserved communities?

1.Evans states that the prayer of a righteous man is 'powerful and effective' (James 5:16) — which means that prayer is not passive but active, not weak but potent. How does this reframe the way you think about prayer? Does it feel like a weapon or a ritual to you?

2.In Luke 18, Jesus tells the parable of the persistent widow to teach His disciples to 'always pray and not give up.' Evans connects this persistence in prayer to the kingdom man's posture — he does not quit when the answer doesn't come quickly. Where are you tempted to give up in prayer? What has you discouraged?

3.Ephesians 6 describes prayer as an essential piece of the armor of God — it is how a kingdom man fights spiritual warfare. Evans argues that many men are losing battles in their homes and communities because they have stopped fighting in prayer. Do you believe that? What would it mean to take prayer more seriously as warfare?

1.Evans opens this theme with Joshua's famous declaration: 'As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord' (Joshua 24:15). What makes that statement so powerful? What would it mean for you to make that same declaration — not just as words but as a posture of your whole life?

2.Psalm 78 calls fathers to tell the next generation the praiseworthy deeds of God 'so the next generation would know them.' Evans sees legacy as intentional transmission — you must pass it on deliberately, not accidentally. What specifically are you transmitting to the next generation right now?

3.Evans is honest about generational patterns — both good and destructive ones — that pass through families. What positive spiritual, relational, or character legacies have been handed to you that you want to continue? What negative patterns do you want to stop with your generation?

1.Looking back over the entire book, which chapter or theme hit you hardest — the one that most exposed a gap between who you are and who God is calling you to be? What made it land so powerfully?

2.Evans organizes the book around four domains: a man's personal life, his family, his church, and his community. In which of these four domains are you strongest? In which are you most underdeveloped? What accounts for the difference?

3.At the beginning of this study, what expectations or fears did you bring? How has this book met, exceeded, or changed those expectations? What has surprised you most about what you discovered — either in the book or in yourself?