Book Club Questions for The Power of a Praying Wife

1.Stormie is honest about the fact that her early marriage to Michael was genuinely painful — there were times she wanted out. What struck you about her willingness to share that? How does her vulnerability affect your trust in the advice she gives?

2.She draws a clear distinction between praying *for* your husband and praying *at* him (using prayer as a disguised way to tell God what is wrong with your husband). Have you ever caught yourself doing the latter? What does that kind of praying reveal about where your trust actually lies?

3.Stormie says that a wife's prayers for her husband are among the most effective prayers possible because of the unique spiritual connection in marriage. Does that idea encourage you or intimidate you? Why?

1.It may seem surprising that a book about praying for your husband opens with a chapter about *being* his wife. Why do you think Stormie starts here? What would be lost if she had jumped straight to praying for his spiritual walk or his work?

2.Stormie is candid about the resentments and walls she had built up in her own heart toward Michael. She had to ask God to help her love her husband the way God loved him. Have you ever needed to pray that prayer — asking God for a love you didn't naturally feel? What happened?

3.She writes about releasing control — choosing to stop trying to manage her husband and instead placing him in God's hands. What does 'releasing control' look like in a marriage practically? What makes it so difficult?

1.Stormie observes that a man's work is not just a job — it is often central to how he understands himself and his worth. Have you seen this to be true in your husband? How does that understanding change the way you respond when he is struggling professionally?

2.What specific things does Stormie encourage wives to pray over their husbands' work? Make a list of two or three. Which of these do you find most natural to pray, and which feels the hardest to believe God will actually do?

3.Proverbs 16:3 says, 'Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.' How does a wife's prayer for her husband's work reflect this verse? What does it mean to 'commit' his work to the Lord when the work belongs to him, not you?

1.Stormie distinguishes between a wife worrying about finances and a wife praying about finances. What is the practical difference between those two responses? Which one do you find yourself defaulting to?

2.The chapter addresses the pressure many husbands feel as financial providers. Even in households where both spouses work, many men carry a deep sense of responsibility for the family's financial security. How aware are you of that weight in your husband? How might your prayers acknowledge and address it?

3.Stormie encourages praying for a husband's wisdom in financial decisions — that he would be neither reckless nor fearful with money. Think of a specific financial decision your household is facing or has recently faced.

1.Stormie tackles a topic many Christian women avoid discussing openly. What did you find helpful, surprising, or challenging about her approach to this subject? Did she say anything that you needed to hear?

2.1 Corinthians 7:3–5 is remarkably direct about the mutual obligations of husbands and wives regarding physical intimacy. How does the framing of intimacy as a gift and a responsibility — rather than a reward or a weapon — challenge the way intimacy is sometimes treated in marriage?

3.Stormie encourages praying for your husband's sexual purity — that he would be protected from temptation, from pornography, and from the distorted views of sexuality that culture presents. Do you pray for your husband's purity? What does it stir in you to take that role as an intercessor?

1.Stormie distinguishes between sexuality (Chapter 4) and affection — the everyday tenderness, attentiveness, and emotional warmth that a wife needs to feel loved. Why is it important to treat these as separate, related but distinct needs?

2.Many husbands show love through acts of service or providing materially but struggle to express verbal or physical affection. Does this resonate with your experience? How has the gap between how your husband shows love and how you receive love affected your marriage?

3.Stormie is honest that she wanted Michael to be more affectionate and didn't know how to ask for it — so she prayed. What struck you about that approach? Is prayer your first instinct when you feel emotionally unmet, or do you go there only after other attempts have failed?

1.Stormie argues that a wife who prays for her husband's temptations is engaging in genuine spiritual warfare on his behalf. How does that reframe the way you think about your role in your husband's spiritual life?

2.She is honest about the range of temptations men face — not only sexual temptation but also pride, anger, dishonesty, substance abuse, greed, and more. Are there specific areas where you have sensed your husband is vulnerable? How does identifying them specifically sharpen your prayers?

3.1 Corinthians 10:13 promises that God will always provide a way of escape from temptation. What does it mean for you, as an intercessor, to pray that your husband will have the wisdom and strength to take that way of escape when it appears?

1.Stormie opens this chapter by observing that so many of a man's struggles — temptation, discouragement, pride, fear — begin with what he allows his mind to dwell on. Why is the mind such a critical target for prayer?

2.Romans 12:2 calls us to be 'transformed by the renewing of your mind.' What does it mean to pray that your husband's mind would be continually renewed by the Holy Spirit? What might that transformation look like in practical terms?

3.Philippians 4:8 gives a specific list: whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable. Stormie encourages praying this list over your husband's thought life.

1.Stormie observes that fear is one of the most significant but least-discussed struggles in a man's life — often hidden beneath anger, workaholism, control, or withdrawal. Have you ever recognized fear underneath your husband's behavior? How did that recognition change your response to him?

2.What kinds of fears does Stormie identify as common to men — fear of failure, fear of inadequacy, fear about finances, fear about the future? Which of these do you sense your husband carries?

3.2 Timothy 1:7 says God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. What would it mean practically for your husband to walk in that spirit — power, love, and soundness — in the areas where fear currently has a foothold?

1.Stormie argues that a man without a clear sense of purpose is adrift in ways that affect not only him but his marriage and family. Have you seen a connection between your husband's sense of purpose and his emotional health, engagement at home, or confidence? Describe it.

2.Ephesians 2:10 tells us we are God's 'workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.' How does praying this verse over your husband change the way you see him — including his unrealized potential or unfulfilled gifts?

3.Stormie encourages praying that your husband will hear clearly from God about his calling and direction. Have you ever prayed specifically for your husband's sense of calling? What would it mean to make that a consistent, expectant prayer?

1.Stormie observes that many of the biggest crises in a marriage trace back to one bad decision made at a critical moment. Can you think of a time — in your own life or in a marriage you've observed — when a single choice had long-lasting consequences? What does that tell you about the stakes of praying for wisdom?

2.James 1:5 says that if anyone lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously. Stormie encourages wives to pray this verse over their husbands regularly. What would it mean to be so convinced of this promise that you pray it daily, specifically, and expectantly?

3.Proverbs 3:5–6 calls us to trust God with all our heart and not lean on our own understanding. A wife who prays for her husband's choices is practicing this herself — trusting that God can guide him even when she cannot. How does that kind of prayer require faith from the wife, not just the husband?

1.Looking back over all ten chapters (plus the introduction), which topic felt most personally significant to you — his work, his fears, his purpose, his temptations, or another? What made that chapter land so deeply?

2.Stormie's central argument is that prayer is a wife's most powerful act of love. Has this study convinced you of that claim more fully? Have you seen any evidence — in yourself, in your husband, or in your marriage — that prayer is actually doing something?

3.One of the recurring themes of the book is the wife's own need for transformation — releasing control, growing in trust, softening in love. In what ways have you changed during this study? Be specific.