Book Club Questions for The Resolution for Men

1.The book opens by painting a picture of a generation of men who have drifted — absent fathers, passive husbands, spiritually disengaged men. How honestly does that portrait describe men you know, or even yourself at certain seasons of your life?

2.The Resolution itself is a formal, written covenant — not just a good intention. Why do you think the Kendricks chose the language and format of a resolution rather than, say, a set of goals or a to-do list? What does a signed covenant communicate that a casual commitment does not?

3.Read through the full text of The Resolution slowly. Which single line stops you in your tracks — either because it convicts you or because it inspires you? Share it with the group and explain why.

1.The Kendricks describe a 'resolute man' as one who has decided in advance how he will live, rather than making moral and spiritual decisions reactively in the heat of the moment. How much of your current spiritual life is proactive versus reactive?

2.The chapter draws a contrast between men who are driven by their circumstances and men who are driven by their convictions. Think of a specific moment in the last month — which category would describe how you responded?

3.Paul's command to 'act like men' (1 Corinthians 16:13) is unpacked here as a call to courage, watchfulness, faith, and love. Which of those four qualities do you find most natural, and which feels most out of reach for you right now?

1.The Kendricks distinguish between a man who 'occupies the house' and a man who 'leads the home.' What is the practical difference between those two, and which more accurately describes you?

2.The chapter argues that servant leadership — the model Jesus modeled — is not weakness but a different and higher form of strength. Where have you seen servant leadership modeled well in a father, mentor, or pastor? What made it compelling?

3.The book points out that many men abdicate spiritual leadership at home, leaving their wives to carry the weight of prayer, church attendance, and faith conversations. How honest is that description of your household?

1.The Kendricks describe a common pattern: men who were deeply romantic and attentive before marriage who became distant and distracted after the wedding. How have you seen that drift happen — in others or in yourself?

2.The chapter distinguishes between love as a feeling and love as a commitment — arguing that biblical love is primarily a choice and a discipline, not a spontaneous emotion. How does that reframing change the way you think about the hard days in your marriage or family relationships?

3.1 Corinthians 13 is quoted at length as the 'job description' of love. Which attribute in that passage — patience, kindness, not being irritable, not being resentful — feels most like a personal indictment when you read it honestly?

1.The Kendricks open this chapter by noting that Nehemiah called men to 'fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes' (Nehemiah 4:14). What does that kind of fierce protection look like in a 21st-century home?

2.The chapter argues that the greatest threats to a family today are not physical but spiritual and cultural — pornography, materialism, spiritual apathy, and relational disconnection. Which of those threats feels most present and most underestimated in your own home or community?

3.The book challenges men to monitor and guard what enters their home through screens, relationships, and entertainment. How proactive are you currently in setting and enforcing those kinds of boundaries?

1.1 Timothy 5:8 says that a man who does not provide for his family 'has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.' The Kendricks take this seriously. How does that strong language land on you — does it feel motivating, convicting, too harsh, or exactly right?

2.The chapter distinguishes between providing financially and providing holistically — arguing that a man can bring home a paycheck while leaving his family impoverished in love, time, spiritual nourishment, and presence. Which dimension of provision do you most need to grow in?

3.The Kendricks warn against two opposite failures: the man who is so consumed by work that he neglects his family, and the man who is lazy and fails to provide materially. Which error do you think is more common in Christian men today, and which temptation do you personally feel more?

1.The Kendricks describe the Shema (Deuteronomy 6:4-9) as the model for intentional fatherhood — faith is meant to be woven into the fabric of everyday life, not reserved for Sunday mornings. How naturally or unnaturally does spiritual conversation flow in your home?

2.The chapter challenges the common approach of 'dropping kids off' at church and expecting professionals to do the spiritual formation. What is the father's unique and irreplaceable role that no pastor or Sunday school teacher can fulfill?

3.Ephesians 6:4 calls fathers not to 'provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.' The Kendricks note that many fathers err in one of two directions — too harsh or too permissive. Which direction do you tend to drift, and what does it cost your children?

1.The Kendricks define integrity as 'who you are when no one is watching.' How different is the person you are in public — at church, at work, with friends — from the person you are when you are completely alone? Be honest.

2.Psalm 15 paints a portrait of the man of integrity: he keeps his oath even when it hurts, he does not slander, he honors those who fear God. Which line in that Psalm feels most personally challenging to you right now?

3.The chapter makes a strong case that small compromises — little lies, financial shortcuts, private viewing habits — erode a man's character over time even when no single act seems catastrophic. Where in your life are you tolerating small compromises that you know are slowly doing damage?

1.Job said, 'I made a covenant with my eyes' (Job 31:1). The Kendricks hold this up as the kind of pre-emptive, decisive commitment men must make in the area of sexual purity. Have you ever made a covenant like that — formal, specific, and accountable? What has prevented you?

2.The chapter does not soften the reality that pornography is an epidemic among Christian men — including leaders and churchgoers. How does naming it that clearly, rather than euphemistically, change the way you think about your own relationship with sexual temptation?

3.Jesus said that looking at a woman with lust is already adultery in the heart (Matthew 5:28). The Kendricks do not allow men to hide behind the 'at least I didn't actually...' defense. How does taking the heart seriously — not just behavior — raise the bar for what sexual integrity actually means?

1.Micah 6:8 calls God's people to 'do justice, love kindness, and walk humbly with your God.' The Kendricks place this not in the abstract but in very specific contexts: the fatherless child, the impoverished neighborhood, the vulnerable family. Where does justice feel most real and urgent to you?

2.The chapter challenges men to consider adoption, foster care, and mentoring as concrete expressions of their faith. James 1:27 defines pure religion as caring for orphans and widows. Has your faith community made that call clear to you? How have you responded?

3.The Kendricks note that there is a crisis of fatherlessness in society — and that the church has a unique opportunity to respond. What would it look like for you personally to invest in the life of a fatherless child or a struggling family in your community?

1.The Kendricks draw heavily on Joshua 1 — where God commands Joshua to 'be strong and courageous' four times in the span of a few verses. Why do you think God repeated the command so insistently? What does that repetition suggest about Joshua's emotional state?

2.The chapter points out that moral courage — the courage to say the hard thing, take the unpopular stand, or protect someone at personal cost — is increasingly rare. Where in your life do you most need that kind of moral courage right now?

3.Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego told Nebuchadnezzar, 'We will not serve your gods' (Daniel 3:18) — even before they knew whether God would rescue them. The Kendricks call this the posture of courage: obedience before outcomes. Where are you waiting for a guarantee before you will obey?

1.Psalm 78 calls each generation to tell the next about God's mighty works — 'so that the next generation might know them, the children yet unborn.' What specific stories about God's faithfulness are you actively passing on to those who will come after you?

2.The Kendricks paint a vision of a legacy that extends beyond your own children — to grandchildren, to men you have mentored, to a church that is different because you were in it. How expansive is your current vision of the impact your life could have?

3.The chapter honestly confronts the reality that many men are more focused on building a financial estate than a spiritual legacy. What has received more of your intentional energy: your retirement account or the faith of the next generation?

1.Paul calls Timothy to 'pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, gentleness' and to 'fight the good fight of faith' (1 Timothy 6:11-12). The Kendricks use this as a picture of the whole-life posture a man of God takes. Which of those pursuits feels most energizing, and which feels most like a fight?

2.The chapter argues that identity precedes behavior — a man must know *who he is* in Christ before he can sustain the *what he does* that the resolution calls for. How does resting in your identity as a son of God change the way you approach the resolution's demands?

3.Romans 8:29 says God's ultimate goal is to conform us to the image of His Son. The Kendricks frame the entire resolution as a means toward that end — not self-improvement for its own sake, but Christlikeness. How does that reframe the motivation behind the resolution for you?

1.Looking back across the entire book, which chapter or theme struck you most powerfully — either because it deeply encouraged you or because it most clearly exposed an area of weakness? What made it land so hard?

2.When you compare the man you were on page one of this study to the man sitting here today, what is the most honest difference you can identify? Has anything actually changed — in your thinking, your habits, your relationships, your private life?

3.The resolution covers a broad landscape: leading, loving, protecting, providing, raising children, integrity, sexual purity, justice, courage, legacy, and identity. Which of those areas do you feel most encouraged about, and which area still feels like your biggest gap?