Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World by Joanna Weaver

Week 7: Chapter 7 — Meeting God in the Dark Moments

Read Chapter 7 of Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World. Primary Scripture: John 11:28–35; Psalm 34:18.

Weaver turns to the painful reality that intimacy with God is not always felt in bright, joyful moments — sometimes it is most deeply forged in grief, loss, and darkness. Come to these questions with honesty about your own dark places.

Discussion Questions

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1.Weaver points to the scene in John 11 where Jesus weeps at the tomb of Lazarus as one of the most tender moments in all of Scripture. What does Jesus' weeping reveal about His nature — and about what it means to bring our grief to Him?

2.Mary falls at Jesus' feet in this scene — not in worship exactly, but in grief: "Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died." Weaver notes that Jesus does not correct her or rush past her pain. What does His response teach us about how God receives our grief, our confusion, and even our implicit questions about His timing?

3.Weaver writes about women who have experienced deep, disorienting loss — illness, death, betrayal, broken dreams — and found that their old formulas for faith no longer seemed to work. Have you experienced a season like that? What happened to your relationship with God during that time?

a.Did the darkness push you away from God or — eventually — toward a deeper, less surface-level intimacy with Him?

b.What, if anything, helped you hold on?

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