The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 9: Chapter 8 — Brave Enough to Say No
Read Chapter 8 of The Best Yes. Key Scripture: Matthew 5:37; Colossians 4:6.
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Saying no is an act of courage — and often an act of love. This chapter helps us find the words, the posture, and the backbone to say it well.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa frames saying no not as selfishness but as faithfulness — a way of protecting the yeses that truly belong to you. How does reframing no as an act of stewardship change how you feel about saying it?
2.She offers practical language for saying no graciously — acknowledging the request, expressing care for the person, and declining without over-explaining or apologizing excessively. Which of those elements do you find most difficult?
a.Do you tend to over-explain your no, as if you need to justify it?
b.Do you apologize so much that the no gets buried under the apology?
3.Lysa introduces the idea of the "small no" — the quiet, gracious decline that doesn't require a dramatic confrontation. Can you think of a small no you could offer this week that would protect something important? What's stopping you from giving it?
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