The Man in the Mirror

1.Morley describes the cultural forces that shape a man's sense of identity and success. What specific expectations — from your upbringing, workplace, or culture — have shaped how you define success as a man?

1.Morley identifies the search for meaning and purpose as one of the deepest longings of a man's heart. How would you describe your own sense of purpose right now — clear, fuzzy, or absent? What has shaped that?

1.Morley defines a worldview as the lens through which we interpret all of reality. Before reading this chapter, had you ever thought of yourself as having a worldview? How would you have described it?

1.Morley distinguishes between a man who has made a 'decision for Christ' at some point in the past and a man who is actually living in an ongoing, transforming relationship with Christ. How would you describe your own experience of faith — more like a past event or a present reality?

1.How would you finish this sentence right now: 'My life exists primarily to ___'? Where did that answer come from — Scripture, culture, upbringing, or somewhere else?

1.Morley suggests that a man's real priorities are revealed not by what he says but by where he spends his time and money. Pull up a mental picture of your last two weeks. What do they reveal about your actual priorities?

1.Think about a significant decision you are currently facing or recently made. What process did you use to make it — gut instinct, spreadsheet, advice from others, prayer, Scripture? Be specific.

1.Morley opens this chapter with the observation that many men invest more energy in their careers than in their marriages, and are more surprised by the breakdown of the latter than the former. How much intentional effort are you putting into your marriage right now?

1.Morley writes that many men are present in the house but absent in the home — physically there but emotionally and spiritually checked out. Be honest: which describes you more accurately right now?

1.Morley writes that most adult men are deeply lonely — surrounded by acquaintances and colleagues but lacking anyone who truly knows them. Would you describe yourself as genuinely lonely? What has kept you from forming deep friendships?

1.Morley writes that every man has a 'secret life' — an inner world of thoughts, fears, and desires that others rarely see. What is the emotional weather pattern of your inner life right now — anxious, bitter, proud, ashamed, at peace?

1.Jesus said more about money than about any other single topic. Why do you think money is so spiritually significant — what is it about money that has such power over the human heart?

1.Proverbs 22:7 says 'the borrower is slave to the lender.' Do you experience debt as a form of bondage in your life? How does financial stress affect your relationships, your peace of mind, and your sense of freedom?

1.If you tracked every hour of your past week, what would the data reveal about your real priorities? What would you be surprised — or embarrassed — to discover?

1.Morley opens this chapter with the observation that most men try to change alone — and most fail alone. Have you ever made a serious commitment to change something in your life and then drifted back to the old pattern? What was missing?

1.How would you describe your current relationship with your local church — deeply engaged, casually attending, or increasingly detached? What has shaped that relationship over time?

1.Morley defines discipleship as the process by which a man becomes more like Jesus in every area of life — not just his beliefs, but his character, habits, relationships, and values. By that definition, how seriously are you currently pursuing discipleship?

1.Morley argues that the ultimate reason men struggle to change is not a lack of information or effort but a real spiritual enemy who works against their transformation. How seriously do you take the reality of spiritual warfare in your daily life?

1.Morley writes that the primary reason change is hard is not weakness of will but the deep rootedness of sinful patterns — habits of thought, feeling, and behavior that have been formed over decades. Can you name one pattern in your life that has proven stubbornly resistant to change? How long have you been aware of it?

1.Morley ends by inviting the reader into a genuine, surrendered relationship with Jesus Christ — or a deeper one than they currently have. Where are you in that relationship as you close this book, compared to where you were when you opened it?

1.Which chapter or theme from The Man in the Mirror landed most powerfully in your life — the one that felt most personally written for you? Why that one?