Week 10: Chapter 9 — Love Languages and Your Friends

1.Chapman suggests that many friendships plateau or drift not because the affection has faded but because people stop speaking each other's love language — or never really started. Can you think of a friendship that has drifted and wonder in retrospect whether a love language mismatch played a role?

2.He points out that for single adults especially, friendships often carry the weight of emotional needs that married people distribute between a spouse, family, and friends. Do you think that is a burden or a gift — or both? How has it shaped the quality of your closest friendships?

3.Think about your two or three closest friends. Based on what you know about the five love languages, what do you think each of their primary love languages might be? What evidence have you observed — things they complain about, things they request, things they naturally do for others — that leads you to that conclusion?