The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Week 8: Chapter 7 — Discovering Your Love Language
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Knowing the theory of the five love languages is one thing — the transformative work begins when you honestly identify your own primary love language and begin to understand why you are wired that way.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Chapman offers three diagnostic questions for discovering your love language: What do you most often request of others? What do you most frequently complain about not getting? And how do you most naturally express love to others? Walk through each of these three questions for yourself.
a.What do you find yourself most often asking of the people you are close to?
b.What complaint or unmet longing keeps coming up in your relationships?
c.When you want to show someone you love them, what do you naturally do?
2.Having read about all five languages by now, which one feels most like your native tongue — the one that most powerfully fills your love tank when you receive it? Did reading the chapters confirm your initial guess or surprise you?
3.Chapman notes that some people feel they have two equally strong love languages, while others have a very clear primary language. Do you feel you have one dominant love language, or do multiple languages feel significant to you? How might that complexity play out in your relationships?