Week 10: Chapter 9 — A Band of Brothers

1.Eldredge observes that most men in America have no real friends — acquaintances, yes; colleagues, yes; but no one who knows them at the level of the soul. Does that observation match your experience? Be honest about the depth of your male friendships.

2.He uses the friendship of David and Jonathan as a model of what deep male friendship looks like — a covenant bond, not merely a casual connection. What made their relationship so extraordinary, and what would need to change in your life for you to have a friendship like that?

3.Eldredge argues that men resist deep friendship because it requires vulnerability, and vulnerability feels like weakness — which triggers the core wound. Where do you feel that resistance in yourself? What would you lose if someone really knew you?