Find Your People by Jennie Allen
Week 5: Chapter 4 — How to Actually Make Friends
Read Chapter 4 of Find Your People by Jennie Allen.
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Jennie gets wonderfully practical here, offering real, step-by-step guidance for initiating friendships — because good intentions alone never built a single relationship. Come ready to think concretely.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Jennie insists that deep friendships don't just happen — they require intentional initiation. How comfortable are you with initiating? On a scale of 1–10, where do you land, and what past experience most shaped that number?
2.She offers practical steps for how to initiate with someone — including the importance of being specific rather than vague in invitations ('Let's get coffee sometime' vs. 'Are you free Thursday at 10?'). Think of someone you've been meaning to reach out to. What would a specific, concrete invitation to them look like?
3.Jennie talks about proximity and consistency as two of the most underrated ingredients in friendship-building. Who are the people you already have natural proximity to — neighbors, coworkers, people at church — with whom you have not yet invested? What's one simple, consistent step you could take?