Find Your People by Jennie Allen
Week 6: Chapter 5 — The Five Ingredients
Read Chapter 5 of Find Your People by Jennie Allen.
Previewing Week 6 of Find Your People
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At the heart of the book, Jennie lays out the five practical ingredients that make deep community possible — not as a formula, but as a framework for how to actually do this. Pay close attention to which ingredients are missing in your current friendships.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Jennie identifies five ingredients essential to deep community: proximity, consistency, vulnerability, a shared mission, and a catalyst (often shared suffering). Before going through each one, which of these five do you already have in at least one current relationship, and which are almost entirely absent from your relational life?
2.Proximity — being physically near one another regularly — is the first ingredient. Jennie laments that modern life has made proximity optional in a way it never was historically. How has the ability to live far from friends and family, work remotely, and maintain relationships online changed your experience of community? What would it take to rebuild meaningful proximity with people you care about?
3.Consistency — showing up repeatedly over time — is the ingredient that turns acquaintances into friends. Who are the people you see consistently right now? Are those consistent encounters deepening into friendship, or staying surface-level? What's the difference between the two?