Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas
Week 11: Chapter 10 — Marriage: A Call to Love and Serve God
Read Chapter 10 of Sacred Marriage. Key passages: Matthew 22:36–40; Galatians 2:20; 2 Corinthians 5:15.
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Thomas brings together the threads of the book in this pivotal chapter, arguing that a marriage fully surrendered to God becomes a platform for loving and serving him — and that this, not personal happiness, is the ultimate telos of the covenant.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Thomas argues that the highest purpose of marriage is not even a good marriage — it is using the marriage as a context for loving and glorifying God. How does that claim sit with you? Does it feel liberating or threatening — and why?
2.He draws on Paul's declaration in Galatians 2:20 — "I no longer live, but Christ lives in me" — to argue that a Christian's primary identity is not "spouse" but "servant of Christ," and that this actually makes us better spouses. How does keeping your primary allegiance to God rather than to your marriage change how you approach the marriage?
3.Thomas warns against "spouse idolatry" — making our spouse the primary source of our meaning, identity, and happiness, which places a crushing weight on them that they were never designed to bear. Where do you see that dynamic in your own marriage or in marriages around you?
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