Week 6: Chapter 5 — Falling Forward

1.Thomas describes marriage as a place where we fall — into sin, into selfishness, into failure — repeatedly, and argues that the question is not whether we will fall but whether we will fall forward into grace. What does "falling forward" mean to you in the context of your marriage?

2.He unpacks the parable of the unmerciful servant in Matthew 18 as a picture of what happens when someone who has been forgiven an enormous debt refuses to forgive a small one. Where in your marriage have you been that unmerciful servant — holding onto a small offense after God has forgiven you an infinite one?

3.Thomas makes the point that forgiving our spouse is not primarily something we do for them — it is something we do in obedience to God and for our own spiritual freedom. Has that framing changed how you think about the times you have struggled to forgive? How?