Single. Dating. Engaged. Married. by Ben Stuart
Week 10: Chapter 9 — Roles in Marriage
Read Chapter 9 of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. Key passages: Ephesians 5:22-33; 1 Peter 3:1-7
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Few topics in Christian marriage discussions generate more heat than the question of roles — Stuart addresses it directly, grounding it not in cultural traditionalism but in the gospel itself. Come to these questions ready to engage carefully and honestly.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Stuart argues that the biblical vision of roles in marriage is not about hierarchy of worth but about difference in function — and that it is ultimately a picture of the gospel. How does he explain that connection? Do you find it convincing?
2.He describes the husband's role of headship through the lens of Ephesians 5 — not domineering authority but self-sacrificial, servant leadership in the pattern of Christ. What does that kind of leadership actually look like in day-to-day married life? What does it not look like?
a.What are the ways that biblical headship has been distorted or abused, and how do those distortions damage marriages?
b.What would it look like for a husband to lead as Christ leads — with sacrificial love rather than self-serving authority?
3.Stuart describes the wife's role in terms of 1 Peter 3 and Ephesians 5 — a willing, trusting response that is itself an act of strength, not weakness. How does the analogy of the church's relationship to Christ reframe what it means for a wife to respect and follow her husband?
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