Single. Dating. Engaged. Married. by Ben Stuart
Week 11: Chapter 10 — Communication and Conflict in Marriage
Read Chapter 10 of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married. Key passages: Ephesians 4:25-32; James 1:19-20
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No matter how solid the foundation, every marriage will face conflict — and how a couple communicates in those moments will largely determine the health of their life together. These questions are an invitation to honest self-examination.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Stuart argues that most marital conflict is not really about the surface issue (money, chores, schedules) but about something deeper — unmet needs, unspoken fears, or misaligned expectations. Have you observed this pattern? How does recognizing the deeper issue change how you approach conflict?
2.He draws on Ephesians 4 — "speak truth in love," "don't let the sun go down on your anger" — as a framework for healthy conflict. What does it mean in practice to speak truth AND love at the same time? Which one do you tend to sacrifice when conflict heats up?
3.Stuart addresses different conflict styles — those who escalate (attack) and those who withdraw (go cold). Which pattern do you tend toward, and what is it rooted in?
a.Where did you learn your conflict style — family of origin, past relationships, personal temperament?
b.What would it take to develop a healthier pattern?
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