Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 6: Chapters 9–10 — Being Honest but Kind: Conflict and Difficult Relationships
Read Chapters 9–10 of Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst. Primary Scripture: Ephesians 4:15; Colossians 4:6.
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Here Lysa gets into the hardest territory — what to do not just with your internal reactions but with the actual person in front of you, especially when the relationship is genuinely difficult.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Lysa draws a sharp distinction between being honest and being kind — many of us have learned to sacrifice one for the other. Do you tend to default toward brutal honesty or toward dishonest kindness? What does either pattern cost you and the relationship?
2.She introduces the idea of "speaking truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15) as a both/and rather than an either/or. Think of a conflict where you managed to do both. What made it possible? Think of one where you failed at one of them. What happened?
3.Lysa is frank about the existence of people in our lives she calls "soul suckers" — relationships that consistently drain us regardless of how well we manage ourselves. How do you discern the difference between a relationship that needs more effort and one that needs new boundaries?
a.What does a healthy boundary look like in a difficult relationship — and what does it not look like?
b.Is there a person in your life you have been avoiding setting a boundary with? What is the fear behind that avoidance?
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