Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
Week 7: Chapters 9–10 — The Energizing Cycle: C-H-A-I-R-S
Read Chapters 9 and 10 of Love and Respect. Primary Scripture: 1 Peter 3:1–2; Ephesians 5:33.
Just as COUPLE gives husbands a road map for loving their wives, CHAIRS gives wives a road map for showing respect to their husbands — in ways that actually register to a man's heart. Wives, read this section asking honestly: how many of these have I been doing?
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Eggerichs introduces the CHAIRS acrostic as the six ways a wife can communicate respect to her husband: Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality. Which of these surprises you most as a category of 'respect'?
2.Conquest refers to a husband's need to have his wife appreciate his desire to work, achieve, and provide — his drive to conquer. Many women today have been taught that a man's career ambition is a threat to intimacy. How might reframing his work as a form of love and provision change how a wife relates to it?
3.Hierarchy speaks to a husband's need to feel that his wife trusts him to lead and will not constantly undermine or override his authority. This is one of the most culturally contested areas of the book. How do you personally navigate the tension between biblical submission and a healthy, mutual partnership?
a.Is there a difference between trusting your husband's leadership and having no voice in decisions? How would you describe that distinction?
b.Eggerichs is not advocating for harsh or domineering authority. What does healthy, servant leadership look like in practice?
Closing Prayer
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