Safe People by Henry Cloud & John Townsend
Week 4: What Makes a Person Safe?
Read Part Two of Safe People (the chapters on traits of safe people). Key passages: Romans 15:7; Ephesians 4:15.
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Having spent time with what we don't want, the authors now turn to a beautiful and specific portrait of what we do want — and what, by God's grace, we can become.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Cloud and Townsend identify three core qualities of safe people: they dwell in the light (they are honest and transparent), they are grace-filled (they accept us without condemnation), and they are truth-telling (they speak honestly even when it's hard). Which of these three do you most hunger for in your relationships right now?
2.The authors describe safe people as those who 'accept us the way we are' — not in a way that enables our sin, but in a way that doesn't require us to perform or pretend. When have you experienced that kind of radical acceptance? What effect did it have on you?
3.Cloud and Townsend argue that safe people help us 'become the people God intended us to be.' This is different from simply making us feel good. In your experience, what is the difference between someone who makes you comfortable and someone who genuinely helps you grow?
a.Can you think of a safe person in your life who has made you uncomfortable in ways that were ultimately good for you?
b.How did you know it was safe discomfort rather than unsafe criticism?
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