Uninvited by Lysa TerKeurst

Week 13: Chapter 12 — The Part That Terrifies Me Most

Read Chapter 12 of Uninvited. Key Scripture: John 15:15 ("I no longer call you servants…Instead, I have called you friends.")

Lysa gets personal here, naming the fear that is hardest to admit: that if people knew the real her — the whole, unedited version — they would reject her. This is the chapter about the terrifying gift of being truly known.

Discussion Questions

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1.Lysa admits that one of her deepest fears is being truly and fully known — because being truly known means being truly reject-able. Do you carry that fear? What does it feel like to imagine someone knowing all of you?

2.She draws a distinction between being liked and being known. Many of us have traded depth of relationship for breadth of approval. Where do you see that trade-off in your own relational life?

3.Jesus calls His disciples friends — not servants — and says the marker of that friendship is that He has made known to them everything He heard from the Father. Real friendship is marked by revelation, not performance. How does that definition of friendship challenge the surface-level connections you maintain?

4.Lysa is vulnerable about the way her platform and public persona can actually become a barrier to deep intimacy — people think they know her because they have heard her speak or read her books. Do you have a similar gap between your public self and your private self? What lives in that gap?

5.She argues that the risk of being known is not just a relational risk but a spiritual one — that our hiding from people mirrors our tendency to hide from God. Do you agree? Where are you currently hiding from God?

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Closing Prayer

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Lord Jesus, You said You no longer call us servants but friends — and friends know each other. We confess the ways we have kept You at a safe distance too, presenting our polished selves in prayer, hiding the parts we are ashamed of, managing our image even with You. You already see it all — and You call us friends anyway. Let that miracle sink in. Give us the courage to be known — by You, and by at least one other person who reflects Your knowing to us. Amen.

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