Week 1: Introduction — A Different Kind of Marriage Book

1.The Chans open by acknowledging that most people come to a marriage book looking for practical help with their relationship. How did you come to this book, and what were you hoping to find?

2.Francis and Lisa argue from the outset that the greatest threat to a marriage is not conflict or neglect, but misplaced priority — making the marriage itself the ultimate goal. Does this diagnosis surprise you? Why or why not?

3.The introduction sets up an eternal frame for the entire book. In your own words, what does it mean to view your marriage through an 'eternal lens'?

4.The Chans write with a noticeable sense of urgency throughout the introduction. What tone do you pick up from their opening pages, and what do you think drives that urgency?

5.Jesus says in Matthew 6:33 to 'seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.' How does this verse function as a kind of thesis statement for the book's approach to marriage?

6.This book is addressed to both couples and singles. If you are single, how does an eternal perspective on marriage speak to your situation right now? If you are married, what assumption about marriage do you most need to challenge as you begin reading?

7.As you begin this study, what is one honest fear or resistance you have about the Chans' countercultural approach? Bring that resistance to God in prayer rather than suppressing it.