You and Me Forever by Francis Chan
Week 6: Chapter 5 — Who's In Charge?
Read Chapter 5 of You and Me Forever. Key passages: Ephesians 5:22–24; Mark 10:42–45; Philippians 2:5–8.
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Few topics in Christian marriage generate more heat and less light than headship and submission — this chapter calls us to look at both through the lens of the cross rather than the lens of culture.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.The Chans address the biblical teaching on husbands as 'head' and wives called to 'submit' — a teaching that is frequently misunderstood and misapplied. How was this teaching modeled (or not modeled) in the home you grew up in, and how has that shaped your instincts?
2.Francis argues that the headship model of Ephesians 5 is not a power structure but a service structure — the husband leads by laying down his life, just as Christ did. How does this servant-leadership model differ from what the word 'authority' typically implies?
3.Jesus tells His disciples in Mark 10:42–45 that 'whoever wants to be great among you must be your servant.' How does this radically reshape what it means for a husband to be the 'head' of the home?
a.What would servant leadership look like on a practical, day-to-day level in your home?
b.In what areas are you most tempted to lead through control rather than through service?