What to read next
by Gary Thomas
Sacred Marriage asks a question that unsettles most engaged couples' assumptions: what if marriage exists to make us holy more than to make us happy? Gary Thomas walks through the ordinary frustrations and joys of married life and treats them as material God uses to shape our character, which makes this a study about spiritual formation as much as it is about romance. Groups that finish its 13 sessions tend to gravitate toward books that keep that same higher-purpose lens, whether the subject is marriage itself, prayer, discipleship, or the character of God. The books below extend that conversation in different directions, some staying close to marriage and others widening out to the spiritual disciplines that undergird it.
Our Sacred Marriage guide runs 13 sessions with 92 discussion questions.
These are guides from our own catalog, ordered by how much each book shares with Sacred Marriage: subject and themes first, then the kind of group it suits, then the same author. It is an editorial comparison of what the books are about — not a ranking of which is better, and not a claim about what other groups chose.
by Francis Chan
Like Sacred Marriage, this book refuses to treat marriage as an end in itself and instead asks couples to build their life together around pursuing God first. It is a bit shorter, 10 sessions and 79 questions, and its tone is more urgent and countercultural, pressing couples to weigh eternity against everyday comfort.
by John Piper
Piper makes nearly the same move as Thomas, arguing that marriage is not mainly about our fulfillment but about displaying something larger than ourselves. The tone here leans more theological and sermonic, built closely around Ephesians 5, and at 12 sessions with 95 questions it asks for a similarly steady group commitment.
by Francis Chan
This one leaves the subject of marriage behind but keeps the same conviction that the Christian life is meant to cost us something and reshape us daily. It is considerably longer and more structured, 27 sessions and 191 questions, and reads as a hands-on discipleship curriculum rather than a reflective book.
by R.C. Sproul
Sproul's book supplies the theological bedrock underneath Thomas's argument: if we do not grasp who God is, we will misunderstand why marriage or any hardship might be meant for holiness rather than comfort. It is shorter, 9 sessions and 62 questions, and its tone is more doctrinal and less narrative than Sacred Marriage.
by John Mark Comer
Comer's call to apprentice ourselves to Jesus through daily practices echoes Thomas's idea that ordinary life, including marriage, is the actual classroom for spiritual growth. The scope is broader than marriage alone, covering a whole rule of life, and runs 12 sessions with 96 questions.
by Henry Blackaby & Claude King
Both books ask readers to stop viewing faith as a set of tasks and start seeing every circumstance, including marriage, as an invitation to join what God is already doing. Experiencing God is longer at 14 sessions and 102 questions and is framed more as a personal discipleship journey than a marriage-specific study.
by Randy Alcorn
Alcorn applies the same basic logic Thomas uses on marriage to money instead, treating an everyday area of life as a spiritual discipline meant to reshape the heart. It is a much shorter, more compact study, 9 sessions and 60 questions, with a practical rather than reflective feel.
by Timothy Keller
Keller's study shares Sacred Marriage's conviction that ordinary spiritual practices, done rightly, can move faith from head knowledge into real transformation of the heart. It runs 12 sessions and 85 questions and carries a more devotional, contemplative tone suited to groups wanting to slow down after Thomas's more relational focus.
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