Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
Week 7: Part Three — Your Battle Plan: Heart and Soul
Read Part Three, Chapters 12–13 of Every Man's Battle. Key Scripture: Proverbs 4:23; Psalm 51:10.
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The authors move beneath behavior and tactics to address the heart — the deeper motivations, wounds, and affections that either fuel the battle or fuel the pursuit of purity.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Arterburn and Stoeker argue that lasting purity is not just about controlling behavior — it requires a transformation of desire, a heart that actually wants holiness. Do you find that you currently want purity, or do you mainly want to avoid consequences? How honest are you willing to be about that distinction?
2.The book explores how unmet emotional needs — for affirmation, intimacy, escape from stress, or relief from loneliness — often drive men toward sexual sin. Can you identify the emotional states that most often precede your moments of greatest vulnerability?
3.Proverbs 4:23 says, 'Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you flows from it.' The authors apply this to the wellspring of sexual desire. What does it mean practically to 'guard your heart' — what does that look like in the inner life, not just in external behavior?
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