Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn & Fred Stoeker
Week 8: Part Four — Victory in Your Marriage
Read Part Four, Chapters 14–15 of Every Man's Battle. Key Scripture: 1 Corinthians 7:3-5; Song of Solomon 1:1-4.
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With the battle for personal purity addressed, the authors now turn to the marriage relationship — both as a context for the battle and as a gift God intends to be protected and enriched by the pursuit of purity.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.The authors argue that your pursuit of sexual purity is, in part, an act of love toward your wife — that impurity robs her of the full presence, passion, and emotional fidelity she deserves. Had you previously thought of your sexual habits as something that directly affected your wife even if she was unaware of them? How does that reframing land?
2.Arterburn and Stoeker describe how men who habitually feed on other images gradually find it harder to be sexually present with and satisfied by their wives. Have you noticed this dynamic in your own experience — either in yourself or in patterns you recognize from conversations with other men?
3.1 Corinthians 7:3-5 teaches that married couples have a mutual obligation of sexual availability to each other. The authors apply this text in the context of helping men understand that a healthy, frequent, and mutually satisfying sexual relationship in marriage is God's design — and one of his provisions against temptation. How does your marriage currently reflect or fall short of this design?
a.What practical steps could you take to invest more intentionally in your marital sexual relationship?
b.Are there conversations with your wife you have been avoiding that need to happen?
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