Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 11: Chapter 10 — The Goodbye You Never Wanted to Say
Read Chapter 10 of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Key passages to consider: Ecclesiastes 3:1–8; Psalm 34:18.
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This is perhaps the most tender chapter in the book — the one that holds space for the person who must now consider walking away from someone they still love.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Lysa distinguishes between a goodbye that is chosen (walking away from a destructive relationship) and a goodbye that is forced (death, betrayal, abandonment). What do they share emotionally, and how are they different?
2.She is careful to say that a goodbye is not always permanent — sometimes distance creates the space in which genuine change can happen. How do you hold the door open for future restoration without leaving yourself vulnerable to the same patterns?
3.Lysa talks about the guilt that almost always accompanies the decision to step away from a relationship — even when every thoughtful person in your life agrees it's the right call. Where does that guilt come from, and is it always a signal that you're doing something wrong?
a.What is the difference between guilt that is a moral compass and guilt that is a manipulation?
b.How do you tell which kind you're experiencing?