Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 6: Chapter 5 — Access Is a Gift, Not a Given
Read Chapter 5 of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Key passages to consider: Proverbs 25:17; Matthew 7:6.
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This chapter challenges a deeply held assumption — that people who love each other have unlimited access to each other — and offers a healthier, more sustainable model.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Lysa's central claim in this chapter is that access to you — your time, your emotional energy, your presence — is a gift to be given, not a right to be demanded. How does that framing land for you? Does it feel generous or guarded?
2.She talks about the difference between personal access and emotional access — someone can be physically present in your life while you wisely limit how much of your inner world they have access to. Can you think of a relationship where this distinction would be practically useful right now?
3.Proverbs 25:17 says, "Seldom set foot in your neighbor's house — too much of you, and they will hate you." What does it say about God's design for relationships that this kind of wisdom is in Scripture? Had you ever noticed this verse before?