Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 4: Chapter 3 — The Bible Verses That Have Been Used Against You
Read Chapter 3 of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Key passages to consider: Matthew 5:39; 1 Corinthians 13:4–7; Romans 12:18.
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Few things keep people stuck in harmful relationships longer than a misread Bible verse — this chapter takes those verses seriously enough to actually examine them.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Lysa opens this chapter with the concept of verses being "weaponized" — used to pressure someone into tolerating harm rather than to illuminate God's truth. Has a Bible verse ever been used against you in this way? How did it affect your willingness to seek help?
2.She works through the "turn the other cheek" passage (Matthew 5:39) and argues that Jesus was not commanding passive submission to ongoing abuse. What is her interpretation of what Jesus was actually teaching in that passage? Do you find it biblically persuasive?
3.Lysa also addresses the way 1 Corinthians 13's description of love — "love bears all things, endures all things" — has been used to argue that a truly loving person never limits access or walks away. How does she distinguish between love that endures and love that enables?