Good Boundaries and Goodbyes by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 5: Chapter 4 — Five Factors to Remember When Setting Boundaries
Read Chapter 4 of Good Boundaries and Goodbyes. Key passages to consider: Ephesians 4:15; Proverbs 4:23.
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This chapter moves from theology to strategy, giving you a practical framework you can actually take into the relationships that challenge you most.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Lysa lays out five factors to keep in mind when implementing boundaries. In your own words, list the five factors she identifies. Which one surprised you most or felt most personally relevant?
2.She emphasizes that a boundary is not a punishment or an ultimatum — it's a statement of what you will or won't do, not a demand about what the other person must do. Why does that distinction matter, practically and relationally?
3.One of the factors involves being honest about your own motivations — asking whether a boundary is being set out of fear, control, or genuine self-protection. When you think of a boundary you need to set, which motivation is most honestly driving it right now?