Week 1: Introduction — When Trust Becomes the Problem

1.Lysa opens the book by describing trust as "the oxygen of all human relationships." What does that metaphor mean to you personally? In what relationship do you feel like the oxygen has been cut off?

2.The introduction acknowledges that after being burned, people often respond in one of two unhealthy directions — becoming either too trusting (naively dismissing red flags) or too guarded (assuming betrayal is inevitable). Which tendency do you recognize most in yourself right now, and why?

3.Lysa states that healing isn't simply about "finding better people to walk with" — it's about developing stability within yourself and with God. Why do you think that internal stability matters as much as, or more than, the quality of people around you?

4.She describes readers who are "exhausted by other people's choices and starting to question their own discernment." Have you ever felt that — not just hurt by someone, but confused about whether you can trust your own judgment? What did that feel like?

5.The book promises to address the question, "If God let this happen, can He even be trusted?" Be honest: Is that question alive in you right now? What would it mean to actually wrestle with it rather than push it aside?

6.Lysa describes carrying a "broken belief system" into new relationships after being hurt. What beliefs about people — or about yourself — do you suspect you might be carrying from past betrayals into present or future relationships?

7.What do you hope to gain from this study? Be specific — not just "I want to trust more," but what would actually be different in your life, your relationships, or your walk with God if this book does what it promises?