I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 4: Chapter 3 — What Is Trust, Really?
Read Chapter 3 of I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst.
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We use the word "trust" all the time, but most of us have never stopped to define it carefully — this chapter invites you to examine what you're actually asking for and what you're actually offering.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa works toward a more precise definition of trust in this chapter. In your own words, how would you now define trust differently than you might have before reading this? What nuances did the chapter add?
2.She distinguishes between trusting a person and trusting your relationship with that person. Why is that distinction important, and how might it change what you're asking for when you say you want to "rebuild trust" with someone?
3.The chapter explores how our earliest experiences with trust (or its absence) shape what we expect from relationships as adults. What did you learn about trust from your family of origin? Were promises kept? Were vulnerabilities honored?
a.How do you think those early lessons still show up in how you give or withhold trust today?
b.Is there a particular pattern you want to interrupt?