I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 8: Chapter 7 — Setting Boundaries Without Building Walls
Read Chapter 7 of I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst.
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There's a crucial difference between a boundary that protects a relationship and a wall that ends it — learning to tell them apart is one of the most important relational skills you'll ever develop.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa draws a distinction between boundaries (which are meant to make relationship possible) and walls (which are meant to prevent relationship entirely). In your own experience, have you been better at one than the other? How has that played out?
2.She addresses a common misconception — that setting boundaries is selfish or unloving. How does she reframe boundaries as an act of care both for yourself and for the other person? Does that reframing resonate with you?
3.The chapter discusses what happens when we skip boundaries and go straight to walls — usually after we've been hurt multiple times without protecting ourselves. Have you done this? What does a wall in your relational life look like right now?
a.Is the wall protecting you from genuine danger, or is it also blocking out connection you actually need?
b.What would it look like to replace one wall with a boundary in a current relationship?