I Want to Trust You, but I Don't by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 6: Chapter 5 — The Neurological and Physical Impact of Betrayal
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Betrayal isn't just emotional — it changes your body and your brain, and understanding that is a crucial step toward compassionate, informed healing.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa introduces the science behind betrayal's impact — explaining how the brain and nervous system are genuinely altered by experiences of being let down by someone you trusted. What was most surprising or validating to you about what she shared?
2.She describes how betrayal trauma can make the nervous system go into a state of chronic alert — hypervigilant, reactive, and exhausted. Do you recognize any of those physical or emotional symptoms in yourself? How long have you been carrying them?
3.Understanding that your reactions to betrayal are partly neurological — not just spiritual failures or weakness — can be both relieving and disorienting. How does that information affect your posture toward yourself and your healing process?
a.Have you been harsh with yourself for "not getting over" a betrayal more quickly? What would self-compassion look like in that area?
b.How does grace apply here — both God's grace toward you and your grace toward yourself?