Week 1: Introduction — Why Goals Matter

1.Todd opens by describing the social-media mirage of relationships — the polished photos and curated moments that make other couples' lives look perfect. When have you caught yourself comparing your relationships (or lack of one) to what you see online? What did that comparison do to you?

2.The book's core premise is that you won't reach a destination you haven't decided to aim for. In your own words, what does it mean to be intentional about your relationship goals rather than just letting relationships 'happen' to you?

3.Todd is candid that he wrote this book not as a perfect marriage expert but as someone who has done the hard work alongside his wife, Natalie. Why do you think his honesty about imperfection makes the message more — not less — credible?

4.The introduction establishes that God has relationship goals for your life that are better than your own. Does that idea feel comforting, challenging, or both? What assumptions about God's intentions for your relationships do you bring into this study?

5.Todd addresses readers across a wide spectrum — single, dating, engaged, married, or 'it's complicated.' Which of those describes you right now, and what is the one relationship question you most hope this book helps you answer?

6.What would it look like for your group (or for you personally) to approach this study with real honesty rather than giving the 'right' answers? What would make that feel safe?