At a glance: this is a 10-week study and discussion guide for Relationship Goals by Michael Todd, with 70 questions organized by reading assignment. Week 1 is free to read, with no card required.
Relationship Goals by Pastor Michael Todd is a candid, gospel-grounded guide to building the relationships you actually want — not the filtered, highlight-reel versions you see on social media. Drawing from his wildly popular, multi-million-view sermon series at Transformation Church in Tulsa, Oklahoma, Todd tackles the full spectrum of relationships: friendships, dating, engagement, marriage, sex, and the inner work required before any of those can truly flourish. His central thesis is simple but demanding: you will never reach a destination you haven't decided to aim for. Until you get intentional about your relationship goals — and let God set those goals — you'll keep settling for connections that look good on the outside but leave you empty on the inside.
This study guide is designed for small groups or individual use over ten weeks. Each week, you'll read the assigned chapter (or section) of the book before your group meets or before you sit down to journal. Come ready to engage honestly — Todd writes with disarming transparency about his own marriage to Natalie, his past mistakes, and the awkward, beautiful work of becoming the right person before finding the right person. As you read, underline what challenges you, circle what surprises you, and write down the questions that surface. Then work through the discussion questions below, either with your group or in your journal. If you're studying alone, consider texting one answer each week to a trusted friend to keep yourself accountable.
By the end of this guide, you will have examined the foundations of your most important relationships, identified the patterns and past wounds that may be holding you back, and developed a clearer picture of the relationships God is inviting you into. Whether you are single, dating, engaged, married, or somewhere in the middle of "it's complicated," these weeks have the potential to be genuinely life-changing — not because the questions are easy, but because the God behind the goals is good.