Relationship Goals by Michael Todd
Week 8: Chapter 7 — Let's Talk About Sex
Read Chapter 7 of Relationship Goals by Michael Todd. Key passages: Genesis 2:24–25; Song of Solomon; 1 Corinthians 6:18–20.
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Todd's 'hot take' is that the Bible's vision for sex is far more positive, passionate, and scandalously good than the Church has often communicated — and that understanding God's design is what makes it possible to honor it.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Todd opens this chapter by acknowledging that the Church has often done a poor job talking about sex — either pretending it doesn't exist or reducing it to a list of 'don'ts.' How has the way you received (or didn't receive) teaching on sex from the Church shaped your current attitudes toward it?
2.He argues that God invented sex, delights in it, and designed it to be extraordinary within marriage — pointing to the Song of Solomon as evidence. Does that idea surprise you? How does it change your understanding of sexual desire itself?
3.Todd explains that sex is not just a physical act but a spiritual and covenant act — a full giving of self that is meant to mirror and reinforce the marriage covenant. What are the implications of that view for sex outside of marriage?
a.How does understanding sex as covenant help explain why sexual sin feels so different from other kinds of sin — why it seems to wound more deeply?
b.How does the same understanding make sexual intimacy within marriage more meaningful, not less?