The 5 Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman & Ross Campbell
Week 6: Chapter 5 — Love Language #4: Acts of Service
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Rolling up your sleeves and doing something for a child can be one of the most eloquent expressions of love — but only when it comes from the heart rather than obligation.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Acts of Service as a love language means that a child feels loved when others do things for them — helping with a project, fixing a broken toy, cooking a favorite meal, or coming through on a promise. Does this sound like any child you know? How do you typically respond when a child asks for your help with something?
2.The authors make an important distinction: Acts of Service should be performed with a joyful, loving spirit — not begrudgingly, not while sighing or complaining, and not as a tool for making a child feel indebted. How does the spirit in which you serve a child affect how they receive the service?
3.Chapman and Campbell also address the balance between serving a child and raising an independent child. Too much service creates dependency; too little leaves the love tank empty. How do you find the right balance between doing things for your child and teaching them to do things for themselves?
a.At what age or stage do you think it becomes more important to teach a child to do something independently rather than doing it for them?
b.How can you serve a child in a way that also models servanthood and generosity rather than entitlement?