Week 4: Chapter 3 — Free to Grieve

1.Rebekah argues that ungrieved loss doesn't disappear — it goes underground, showing up later as anxiety, numbness, or bitterness. Is there a loss in your own life — a relationship, a dream, a season — that you have never fully grieved? What has kept you from doing so?

2.Jesus pronounces a blessing on those who mourn: 'they will be comforted' (Matthew 5:4). Why do you think mourning is a prerequisite for that particular comfort? What does the act of mourning make possible that bypassing grief cannot?

3.She draws a distinction between grief that leads somewhere and grief that becomes a permanent residence — between mourning and being consumed by sorrow. How do you tell the difference in your own experience? What does healthy grief look like compared to being stuck?