Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Week 7: Chapter 6 — Common Boundary Myths
Read Chapter 6 of Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
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Most of us carry deeply held but rarely examined beliefs about why setting limits is wrong — and this chapter names them directly. As you read, be honest about which myths you have believed, and where you learned them.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Cloud and Townsend address the myth that "if I set boundaries, I'm being selfish." How do they dismantle this claim? What is the difference between self-centeredness and appropriate self-care in their framing?
2.The myth that "boundaries are a sign of disobedience" often comes from a misapplication of submission and servanthood in Christian teaching. How do the authors distinguish between true servanthood (freely chosen) and compliance born of fear?
3.The authors tackle the myth that "if I set boundaries, I will hurt other people." They acknowledge that limits do cause pain — but what kind of pain, and to what end? How do Cloud and Townsend distinguish between harmful pain and the pain of growth?