Cherish by Gary Thomas
Week 5: Chapter 4 — The Inspiring Marriage
Read Chapter 4 of Cherish by Gary Thomas. Key passages: Hebrews 10:24–25; 1 Thessalonians 5:11.
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One of the most profound gifts a spouse can give is the gift of being believed in — this chapter explores how cherishing fuels the growth and calling of the person you love.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Thomas argues that a cherishing spouse is an *inspiring* spouse — someone who calls forth the best in their partner rather than dimming their potential. Think of a person in your life (not necessarily a spouse) who has made you feel truly believed in. What did they do, and what effect did it have on you?
2.He explores the idea that marriage can either be the wind beneath someone's wings or an anchor around their ankles. Honestly, which has your marriage functioned as more — a place where your spouse is freed to grow and flourish, or a place where they feel limited and unseen?
3.Thomas discusses how cherishing involves knowing your spouse's God-given gifts and calling — not projecting your own hopes onto them, but genuinely celebrating who *they* are made to be. How well do you know your spouse's deepest gifts and longings? What might you be missing?
a.When did your spouse last feel genuinely celebrated for who they are — not what they do for you?
b.Is there an area of their calling or gifting you have been slow to affirm or encourage? Why?