Cherish by Gary Thomas
Week 8: Chapter 7 — Cherishing Your Spouse by Celebrating Them
Read Chapter 7 of Cherish by Gary Thomas. Key passages: Proverbs 31:28–31; Romans 12:10.
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Thomas turns our attention to one of the most visible expressions of cherishing — the willingness to celebrate and honor your spouse openly, publicly, and enthusiastically.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Thomas argues that a cherishing spouse is quick to celebrate their partner — in private and in public — not just in crisis but in ordinary life. How would you describe your celebration quotient in your marriage? Are you more of an encourager or a critic by default?
2.He points to the husband in Proverbs 31 who praises his wife 'at the city gate' — the most public place in the ancient world. What is the modern equivalent of 'the city gate'? How do you speak about your spouse to your friends, family, and colleagues?
3.Thomas warns against what he calls 'leveling' — the habit of cutting your spouse down to size, often with humor or sarcasm, in front of others. Have you noticed this pattern in yourself or in couples around you? What does it reveal about how cherishing is (or isn't) operating?
a.Think of the last time you made a joke at your spouse's expense in a social setting. How do you think they experienced it?
b.What would it look like to replace that habit with one of public affirmation?