Forgiving What You Can't Forget by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 11: Chapter 10 — "Correcting the Story I Keep Telling Myself"
Read Chapter 10 of Forgiving What You Can't Forget. Key Scripture: 2 Corinthians 10:5; Philippians 4:8.
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The stories we tell ourselves about what happened — and about what it means — have enormous power over whether we heal or stay stuck, and this chapter invites us to examine them honestly.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa argues that we all construct a narrative around the hurt we've experienced — and that narrative is not always accurate, even when our pain is completely real. What story have you been telling yourself about what happened to you? What role do you play in that story? What role does the other person play?
2.She addresses the way we can become attached to the story of our victimization — not because we are weak, but because that story has become part of our identity. What is the cost of staying in the victim role beyond what is true? What does it protect us from having to feel?
3.2 Corinthians 10:5 talks about "taking captive every thought and making it obedient to Christ." In the context of forgiveness, what does it look like to take a destructive, repeating thought *captive* — to catch it, examine it, and redirect it?
a.What thoughts about your situation do you find hardest to take captive? What makes them feel so true?
b.What would it look like to replace one of those thoughts with something true from Scripture?