Forgiving What You Can't Forget by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 8: Chapter 7 — "Boundaries That Help Us Stop the Bleeding"
Read Chapter 7 of Forgiving What You Can't Forget. Key Scripture: Proverbs 22:3; Matthew 10:16.
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Forgiveness and wisdom are not opposites — this chapter invites us to think carefully about what healthy relational boundaries look like for people who are trying to heal without being hurt again.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa uses the powerful image of a wound that keeps reopening — and suggests that sometimes a boundary is the bandage that gives healing a chance to take hold. What boundaries have you needed to establish in your own life? Were they easy or agonizing to put in place?
2.She addresses the common guilt that Christians feel about setting limits in relationships — the worry that boundaries are selfish or unloving. How does she reframe this? What does she argue a boundary is *for*?
3.Proverbs 22:3 says, "The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty." How does wisdom and foresight factor into the way you make decisions about who gets access to you and at what level?