Forgiving What You Can't Forget by Lysa TerKeurst
Week 7: Chapter 6 — "Am I Supposed to Just Act Like It Never Happened?"
Read Chapter 6 of Forgiving What You Can't Forget. Key Scripture: Micah 7:18–19; Hebrews 8:12.
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One of the most common objections to forgiveness is the fear that it requires pretending — minimizing the wound, acting cheerful, and stuffing the memory somewhere dark. This chapter offers a much better way.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Lysa confronts the misbelief that forgiveness means acting as if the hurt never happened — or being required to feel warmly toward someone who wounded you deeply. Where did you first absorb that idea? From family, church, or culture?
2.She draws on God's own language about forgiveness in Hebrews 8:12 — "I will remember their sins no more" — and explores what it actually means for an all-knowing God to "not remember." What is the theological insight she draws from this, and how does it change the pressure we put on ourselves to forget?
a.Is God suggesting that he literally loses the memory? Or is he saying something else — something about how he *chooses* to relate to us going forward?
b.How does this distinction change what you can reasonably expect of yourself when you forgive someone?
3.Lysa uses Micah 7:18–19 — the image of God hurling our sins into the depths of the sea — as a picture of divine forgiveness. What does this image evoke for you? What would it mean to apply that image to the person who hurt you?