The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller
Week 3: Chapter 2 — The Power of Marriage
Read Chapter 2 of The Meaning of Marriage. Key Scripture: Genesis 2:18–25; Proverbs 18:22.
In this chapter, Keller explores the remarkable social and personal power that marriage has — and asks why, if it is so powerful, so many people are fleeing from it.
Discussion Questions
7 questions1.Keller surveys the significant body of social science research showing that married people are healthier, happier, wealthier, and longer-lived than their unmarried counterparts. Were any of these findings surprising to you? How do you explain them?
2.Keller distinguishes between 'consumer relationships' — which we stay in as long as they meet our needs — and 'covenant relationships' — which are defined by unconditional commitment. In your experience, how does the consumer mindset show up in modern dating and marriage?
3.Keller argues that it is precisely the binding, unconditional nature of the marriage covenant that gives it its power to create the safety necessary for deep intimacy. Why would a binding commitment make someone feel *more* safe rather than more trapped?
a.Have you experienced or observed a relationship where that kind of safety was present? What did it look like?
b.What happens to intimacy when one or both partners are holding an 'exit strategy' in reserve?
Closing Prayer
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