For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn
Week 2: Chapter 1 — Your Love Is Not Enough: Why Your Respect Means More to Him Than Your Affection
Read Chapter 1 of For Women Only. Key related passage: Ephesians 5:33.
Previewing Week 2 of For Women Only
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Feldhahn opens with one of her most surprising findings — that men need respect even more than they need love — and the implications for how women relate to the men in their lives are enormous. Come ready to have your assumptions gently overturned.
Discussion Questions
8 questions1.Feldhahn describes giving men two stark choices — to feel unloved but respected, or loved but disrespected — and finding that the vast majority chose to feel respected. Did that finding surprise you? Why or why not?
2.She distinguishes between two types of respect: respect for *who he is* (his intrinsic worth as a person) and respect for *what he does* (his decisions, competence, and judgment). How are these different, and why might both matter to a man?
3.Feldhahn notes that men often feel disrespected without their wives ever intending it. What are some common ways that women communicate disrespect without realizing it — in word, tone, or body language?