Home, for Niequist, is not just a place — it is a practice, a posture, a commitment to making space where people feel safe enough to be themselves.

Discussion Questions

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1.Niequist writes about home as sanctuary — a place that is defined not by its aesthetics but by the sense of safety and belonging it creates. Does your home feel that way to you? To the people who enter it?

2.She reflects on the difference between hospitality as performance (the perfectly curated dinner party) and hospitality as presence (the open door, the real conversation). How has your own practice of hospitality been shaped more by one than the other?

3.Niequist talks about her own home with Aaron and her boys — the rhythms that make it feel like a sanctuary rather than a stage. What rhythms, rituals, or habits create a sense of home in your life, even if you're not a homemaker in the traditional sense?

4.She writes about the temptation to wait until life is settled — until the home is renovated, until the kids are older, until things calm down — before creating sanctuary. Where are you waiting for the right conditions before practicing presence at home?

5.The idea of a "spirit" of a home suggests that what we carry inside us shapes the spaces we inhabit. What spirit do you tend to bring home at the end of a day — hurry, stress, openness, warmth? What does that feel like for the people around you?

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