In a culture obsessed with the new, staying — in a place, a marriage, a community, a season — is one of the most countercultural and formative things a person can do.

Discussion Questions

6 questions

1.Niequist writes about the discipline of staying — not fleeing when things get hard, not always looking for the next better thing. Where in your life are you most tempted to leave (emotionally, physically, or relationally) rather than stay?

2.She reflects on the way that rootedness — staying in a neighborhood, a community, a friendship — creates a depth that mobile, provisional relationships cannot. Where do you feel most rooted in your current life? Where do you feel most provisional or temporary?

3.There is a difference between staying out of passivity or fear and staying as an active, chosen form of faithfulness. How do you distinguish between those two kinds of staying in your own experience?

4.Niequist is honest that staying required her to grieve some dreams — some visions of her life that would not come true if she chose the slower, more present path. What might you have to grieve in order to stay more fully where you are?

5.Who in your life has modeled faithful staying for you — in a marriage, a church, a neighborhood, a difficult relationship? What has that faithfulness produced over time?

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