Healing is rarely clean or linear — it leaves marks, and Niequist argues that those marks are not signs of damage but evidence of survival.

Discussion Questions

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1.Niequist uses the image of scar tissue — the body's tough, transformed response to a wound — to describe what healing looks like in a person's soul. What scars do you carry from earlier seasons of your life? How do you typically feel about them?

2.She suggests that many of us are trying to return to who we were before we were hurt, rather than accepting who we are becoming. What is the difference between those two postures, and which one tends to characterize your relationship with your own past?

3.Niequist writes honestly about the way that the drive to perform and produce was itself a kind of wound — not just a bad habit. Have you ever thought about your own striving in those terms? What might it mean to grieve it rather than just discipline it away?

4.Scar tissue is both stronger and less flexible than original tissue. In what ways has your own history of pain made you stronger? In what ways has it made you more rigid or defended?

5.She writes about the importance of people who knew you before — who can see both who you were and who you are becoming. Do you have people like that in your life? What do they offer that newer relationships cannot?

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