Before anything can be healed, it has to be named — this chapter is Niequist's attempt to give language to a pain that many of us have felt but struggled to articulate.

Discussion Questions

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1.Niequist describes an ache — a persistent, low-grade sense that something is wrong, even when everything looks fine. Do you recognize that ache in your own life? How long has it been there?

2.She argues that we often medicate the ache rather than diagnose it — with food, screens, busyness, or achievement. What are your most common forms of self-medication? What are you numbing?

3.Niequist suggests that the ache is not the enemy — it is a signal, a messenger. What do you think your own ache might be trying to tell you about your life?

4.There is a specific kind of grief that comes from realizing you have been living someone else's version of your life. Have you experienced that grief? What did it, or does it, feel like?

5.Niequist writes that naming something truthfully is the beginning of healing it. What is one thing in your life that you have been reluctant to name — to yourself or to God — because naming it would require you to do something about it?

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